Change from Within
Author – Dr. T. Brown
Change from within requires knowing when to change, or move on. Negativity has to be avoided when not productive negativity. What is productive negativity? Energy, comments, feedback, advice, and the lack of support for the enhancement of an individual is the summary of what I consider to be productive negativity. If negativity comes from someone who has the purpose of controlling another for superiority, jealousy, envy, lying, stealing, cheating, and cowardly agendas then, the victim does not need to change – he/she needs to move on. The person who projects him/herself onto another individual in such a manner can be considered emotionally and mentally dangerous – to say the least. Yesterday, I had some real-life experiences. They included:
1. Observing how a female who is considered by “Common-law” to be a wife chose to inflict mental cruelty on her mate through deep-seeded anger, sabotage, verbal attacks and curse words, as well as stating in front of everyone how she refused to give her physical self to him for the last 5 years.
2. Observing a husband tell his wife that “I am here for you. I love you. You need to fix some things. There are 1,000 things wrong with you, but I am going to give you the top 3, right now. I know there has been inactivity (sex) with us, but you cannot go and have a relationship with other people while being married to me. If you change those things, we will be fine.”
I really don’t know how marriage gives some people the thought that of property and the right to abuse it.
I don’t know how people can be built up from within when his/her mate is beating and breaking him down mentally and emotionally.
Why does marriage reflect remnants of unhealthy behavior? Why do humans revert to animalistic and savage behavior?
If the law didn’t exist to protect people from physical harm, would the same mates eventually kill their mates from innate behavior, such as survival of the fittest?
What is love? Who defines love? What is marriage? Who defines marriage? When is a relationship over?
When should people stop changing for one person? When….???????